Why it’s good to be a man

Here is why I think it’s good to be a man.

If you are a man:

Certain sports/hobbies are OK for you to do.

Cycling, motorcycles, shooting, martial arts to name a few. I cannot imagine doing either of those two activities without feeling the slightest manly. Is it a feeling forced upon by society? I was reading a cycling magazine today… How many pictures featured a woman cycling? ONE. Because she was part of the article. The others were part of the advertisements of course, portraying as a decoration more than a possibility of wearing the actual merchandise. Not that there aren’t women cyclists. There are, yes. But I cannot imagine a woman cycling without feeling that she is just basically wearing men’s attire, with an opening at the chest for cleavage. And that is to distinguish that she is a woman.

I cannot imagine riding a motorbike without feeling my testosterone levels rising. Come on, the motorbike jacket? It’s bulky, heavy, and unflattering. Why should a woman wear flattering clothes, hardcore feminists may shout. Well I would like to feel like a woman while riding, thank you. Plus be protected, so none of that womanly motorbike attire that is slim, has no protection, and is only about the sexiness. Which is also a discrimination. Can’t I look good AND have protection? Or can we not automatically assume that only guys ride motorbikes?

One might complain here, and protest that there should be no separate attire for a man and a woman. Well, sorry, but this is how the world works. You wouldn’t wear boxers designed for men, would you? Why would you need that extra pocket hole? Well…. on second thought I can think of a few reasons, but let’s face it they aren’t flattering on a woman.

Shooting. Which girl involved in shooting is considered feminine? When you hear about someone, and you haven’t met them yet. In my mind, an image like this would pop up.

To make things clear, when I talk about feminity I don’t mean the overly obsessive makeup business and preping. I am not into that.

Which takes us into the other reason why it’s good to be a man…

You don’t need to worry too much about appearances

Bad hair day? Puhlease. What to wear? No problem. Makeup? Ha. No need to worry about any of these!!! What is required of you, is:

a) be clean

b) if you are into that, shave

c) put your clothes on

d) brush your hair

DONE.

No needless worrying about how your face looks, dark bags under your eyes, bad hair days, clothes that don’t match, etc. etc. etc. And I am not even the type that puts makeup on every chance they get.

No periods, no pregnancies

ALL a guy has to do, is remember (or put a reinder on the phone) when his girlfriend has her period (in case of PMS days), and remember to put a condom on.

No menstrual pains (YES-you-may-not-want-to-hear-it-guys-but-it-is-the-truth), no bad periods, no pads, no tampons, no blood, no worrying about an early pregnancy, no carrying the baby for 9 months (ok I admit that has benefits but this is not part of this post), no giving birth!

You get paid more

It’s a well-known fact that men get paid more for the same jobs that women do as well. Take Hollywood for example. The men get TWICE as much as their women counterparts!! How is it possible that the best paid actress gets 56 million, and the best paid actor gets 80 million?! Very unfair.

You have more sexual freedom

Slut and whore were initially words concerning females, were they not? What about the men? Well, now they are called man-slut and man-whore, thank goodness. A man can fantasize about a threesome with two women, and if he achieves it, well it’s considered an achievement. If a woman does the same with two men, it’s considered slutty and as if she were a porn-star! Men brag about masturbating, but women? Those that do are again considered promiscuous. More women are open now, which is great, and I hope that it can became equal one day.

Disclaimer: This is not a feminist post. But I have some complaints about a few things that seem unfair to me. I understand also that men have many responsibilities, but women do as well. And of course not everything is black and white. This is not a debate to say that being a man is a better option (I don’t plan on having a sex change!), I am stating the reasons I think it’s good to be a man. So it’s only one point of view and not complete.

P.S. Why is it that there are more male stand-up comedians?

Before I go, I want to share with you an image that I found recently and I love, love, love. It’s genius!

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3 thoughts on “Why it’s good to be a man

  1. The Blade of Light says:

    > I was just watching a documentary on TV about a Yo-Yo competition with people from all around the world competing in it. All guys. Not a single girl.

    The labels “nerd” and “geek” (I use the terms even though I do not like them) are usually tagged on men, so this is not really that surpising … It has something to do with what Dru said that we can be thick enough to not care for appearances …

    This however doesn’t mean that there isn’t a price to pay for the average person, either male or female.

    Majorities are always harsh with those that do not fit in them.

    > Oddly enough, there were no documentaries about knitting competitions with knitters from all around the world competing.

    Well, I do not think that knitting is something that can be competitive in a atime schedule (it is an art, not a measurable/countable sport), so there might not have been any world competition but there are such references within documentaries.

  2. The Blade of Light says:

    Hmm … I actually have many questions and objections on this post, but let us see them in their own turn :

    >There are, yes. But I cannot imagine a woman cycling without feeling that she is just basically wearing men’s attire, with an opening at the chest for cleavage. And that is to distinguish that she is a woman.

    Cycling equipment/attire is more or less unisex because all there is to it is protection (headgear and various pads for example) and clothing to reduce the air resistance (tight uniform) so how does this make it more of a man’s sport .?. It is just a matter of practicallity.

    > I cannot imagine riding a motorbike without feeling my testosterone levels rising. Come on, the motorbike jacket? It’s bulky, heavy, and unflattering.

    Well, protection excluded, that is indeed the “macho” kinda look that goes with the motorcycles, especially those Harleys, so, yes they do not look much good on women.

    > Well I would like to feel like a woman while riding, thank you. Plus be protected, so none of that womanly motorbike attire that is slim, has no protection, and is only about the sexiness. Which is also a discrimination. Can’t I look good AND have protection?

    Not really … Imagine playing american football wearing all that protection … It just HAS to be bulky and clumsy to be protective.

    The same goes with motorbikes … if you want protection, expect something bulky and unweildy. Looks go second for practicality’s sake when your structural integrity is in danger of being compromised on every slight mistake you might make while driving.

    > Shooting. Which girl involved in shooting is considered feminine?

    Well, it is an activity that is just practical and not really for looks so isn’t it obvious that wielding a gun doesn’t make someone more of a man or more of a woman, in the same way that wielding a pickaxe, broom, shovel, rake, hammer or screwdriver doesn’t add anything to the wielder in any case and any gender.

    > To make things clear, when I talk about feminity I don’t mean the overly obsessive makeup business and preping. I am not into that.

    Well, of that I was certain and I while I think I understand what you do not mean with it, but I must admit that I am a bit confused with what you do mean with it, which is not the same thing. *scratches head*

    >You don’t need to worry too much about appearances
    > Bad hair day? Puhlease. What to wear? No problem. Makeup? Ha. No need to worry about any of these!!!

    Well, for men over the mental age of 20 and forth that is indeed true, but have you seen how the kids dress nowadays, even the males .?.

    They care for nothing else other than appearances … 😐

    > d) brush your hair

    Ahahaha … I am laughing because actually this is also optional 😉 … For example, I have always had short hair because I hate doing that … 😛

    > No menstrual pains (YES-you-may-not-want-to-hear-it-guys-but-it-is-the-truth), no bad periods, no pads, no tampons, no blood, no worrying about an early pregnancy, no carrying the baby for 9 months (ok I admit that has benefits but this is not part of this post), no giving birth!

    This is indeed true, but it is not as if this actually pleasing for us.

    Before a ninja-feminist pops out from somewhere and chops my head off, I explain with an example :

    Let us suppose that your boyfriend is down with extreme pain, let us say due to a kidney stone (supposedly an equally intense pain with giving birth, but with much more time to be in pain involved ).

    What do you do .?.
    Don’t you fret, worry and try your best to make him feel better even if you KNOW you CANNOT .?.

    You wish you can help, but you cannot and you are left with just watching a person you love suffer. NOT a good situation to be in for months … definitely it is worse to be yourself in pain, but point me to the JERK who wouldn’t gladly change places IF he could and take/share the pain to make you feel better and I can safely tell you who a woman should not trust to ever get pregnant from. 😛

    So, yes, we do not have the physical pain, BUT a couple is not two separate people that just happen to be together in a bed. It is something more than that and in that union the physical pain for the one part, is the mental pain and worry for the other part.

    > Take Hollywood for example. The men get TWICE as much as their women counterparts!! How is it possible that the best paid actress gets 56 million, and the best paid actor gets 80 million?! Very unfair.

    Well, sorry, but Hollywood and those millions are not really a good example … give me 56 million dollars and I wouldn’t mind if my colleagues got more … 😛

    > Men brag about masturbating …

    Huh .?. Since when .?. I ‘ve never met anyone that did that … after all “Malakas” is a swear word and not something people brag about … ;-p

    > More women are open now, which is great, and I hope that it can became equal one day.

    I really do not think that equality should mean wanting one day for women to copy all our generalized/stereotypical flaws and stupidities that are attributed to us because of our gender, like open promiscuity.

    As far as I am concerned, equality of actions and equality of behaviour are not the same.

    I explain : A woman SHOULD be able to do anything a man does, BUT that doesn’t mean that she has to, in order to consider herself equal with men. It is a basic matter of choice and freedom. We are free to do many things and choices, but that doesn’t mean that we do all of them, just because we can do them and get away with them.

    For example, a woman should be free to swear like truck driver and be as horny as a sailor after being at sea for a year, BUT that doesn’t mean that is is a good behaviour to have or that it is socially acceptable to be a person like that.

    In plain words, as far as I am concerned, ethics and behaviours do NOT have a gender distinction.

    Have a good night ! 🙂
    It was a very good post and got me into a bit of night-thinking, which is always a plus.
    Also, that picture is fantastic ! As a coffee non-enthusiast, I instantly saved it !

    P.S.

    > P.S. Why is it that there are more male stand-up comedians?

    Behold the answer for the general case :

    😉 😛 😀

  3. I agree with most of your points, but I think the first one could have been phrased more precisely.

    Certain sports/hobbies are OK for you to do.

    Well, the same is true for women—certain sports and hobbies are okay for women to do as well… field hockey, knitting, scrapbooking, cheerleading, gymnastics. Where this is advantageous to men is not that certain hobbies are OK for them to do, but that the hobbies and sports men engage in are more respected or get more publicity. I was just watching a documentary on TV about a Yo-Yo competition with people from all around the world competing in it. All guys. Not a single girl. Oddly enough, there were no documentaries about knitting competitions with knitters from all around the world competing. Gymnastics and cheerleading are also sexist, in that they both require a lot of skill and strength, but they’re mainly sports people watch because they are about women looking pretty or graceful, and cheerleading is usually women cheering for men’s “real” sports, anyway. Even though men get the so-called upperhand in society (for all the reasons you noted and more), we all lose, though, because we are all stuck in rigid gender roles, even if men’s gender roles offer some advantages. The woman cyclist may get hazed or feel she’s alone or has something to prove. But the male cheerleader certainly gets very little respect and will get a lot of messages from society that he’s not in a real sport or isn’t a real man or along with the pressure that means straight is some better than gay, he’ll get the message that he’s gay because of what he likes (which, again, is supposed to be an insult).

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