How do you survive in a world that has different views than you?
When people use words like nothing, not caring what they really mean, and just sprout them out?
But you take the words and their meanings seriously?
Because excuse me people, but words have a meaning for a REASON.
You can’t just say, “I figured this out” and mean “I found this on a forum”.
Definition of “Figure Out”:
- solve: find the solution to (a problem or question) or understand the meaning of;
- To come to understand; to discover or find a solution; to deduce; To calculate
It means that you thought of it through, you mulled it over in your mind, and from theories deducted that the solution was x.
In my opinion it doesn’t mean, “I was browsing through the internet till I found it on a forum.”
This is just an example, a very recent one.
I think the solution is not only for me to start taking words less seriously… I think everyone should compromise. People who use words like nothing to think more about their meaning, those who take them too seriously to lessen their hold…
Because then why don’t why just start calling each other “assholes” and mean it as “friend”? “Oh, I meant that you’re a friend!”
Well, this is the trend in Greece between guys, calling each other “malaka”.
I like nationalities who are rumoured to say things that they mean. Finland has (had?) this. I don’t know if it’s still there, but I had read that when they tell you something, “Call me sometime!”, they mean it and will be hurt if it goes forgotten.
I detest people/nationalities who just say things and don’t mean them. “I’ll call you sometime!” YEAH SURE. Sometime being when exactly? When YOU NEED something from ME?? Well thanks, but you’re not a friend. Goodbye!
I hate it when some people say, “I’ll call you for a coffee next week!”, and I specifically say, “Ok, I’ll be waiting!”, and nothing comes. I mean come ON, WHY say it?! Just don’t say anything!!!! If you don’t want to go out with me, don’t say it!!! Or if you can’t go for a coffee, a nice act of courtesy and kindness would be to send me a message, “I didn’t forget about you, but something happened and I can’t go for coffee this week”. Great! Then I’ll respect you more.
I try to be honest like this and keep my promises and words. If I say something, I try to keep it. If something comes up, I’ll apologize and ask for another time.
I’m pretty frustrated as you can see. It annoys me.
You know what I think?
That if people use words just like that, then it’s harder for me to believe those people and trust them. So, speak carefully. Then I start to wonder if whatever is said, is meant as well.
So, even if I don’t know you or you don’t know me (to any readers that are but a presence on the internet), please try to keep your words, and don’t speak in vain. Hearts could be broken. Say what you MEAN. If you don’t know how to phrase it as you want, be honest. Open a dictionary or thesaurus. And don’t hide behind excuses. With time you’ll become better at it.